Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Let the Dogs Bark, Our Caravan Rolls On

Ok, I'm reading over on Sara's blog and she has a letter supposedly written by a racist WW. Go here to read the full article. Be prepared, not only is there profanity, but there is some serious ignance going on there.

My initial reaction to this article was amusement because this woman really does seem so very over the top with her hatred, as in "that's got to be a Black man or a Black woman fvcking around posting all of that nonsense" over the top, but no. As soon as I realized that that might really be a WW, the amusement turned into apprehension. I mean, if this is how one woman feels, then how are we to be sure that all WW don't feel this way? Should I be worried? *glances around nervously*

After the apprehension and uncertainty came clarity. This WW is running scared. She and her YT woman sisteren are mortified that they are slowly but surely being replaced as the "go to" woman for men in power. A strong man desires a strong woman by his side, someone who not only complements his strengths, but who is going to eliminate his weaknesses. That is fact and that is the nature of the beast. I have heard my WM friends say time and time again that one of the main reasons that they are leaving WW behind is because they crack under the slightest pressure. No man wants to constantly have to worry about whether or not his woman will have his back when shit is going down.

BW, we have by our very nature proven time and time again that not only will we have our man's back, we can and will fight with him side by side if the need arises. Black women possess a terrible strength, a fierce strength that makes Missy Anne's simpering and whimpering not only irritating, but abhorrent to a man who needs his woman to be on her best game when chips are going down.

Missy Anne's days as queen of the mountain are numbered, and she knows it. The days of her beauty being shoved down our collective throats as the only desirable one are fast coming to an end, and I for one cannot wait. That's right YT women: your dominance as the face of everything that is good, right and beautiful is at an end. But most of all, WW are finding out a truth that WM have been in a kindly conspiracy to keep hidden from her and those of her ilk for many, many years.

They know this truth now and it's a bitter as hell pill to swallow to Missy: Your men aren't really all that into you because they genuinely love you. No dears, they're with you because they couldn't get with the women they really wanted: Black women.

Now say what you like, but there's a part of me that believes that even the most devoutly "nothing but a WW" White male wouldn't say no if a BW gave him the go ahead to come and at least sample the wares. That's not to say that they would stay with you once the initial thrill is over, but as we all know, chocolate is one helluva an addiction to beat, and chocolate women are not to be taken lightly in this regards. "Once you go Black, you never go back" indeed.

But see, the main problem with the ig'nant WW of the world is that this knowledge is not really new to them. They have always had at least an inkling of this truth. Even back during slavery, some deeply buried sense of self preservation had to be hollering at them to keep their men away from sisters "by any means necessary", but just as they do now, they chose to bury their collective heads in the sand and pretend that all is well, comforting themselves with the thought that their men were turning to the slave woman as a way of protecting their "virtue" and shielding them from their mates baser impulses. White men, upon hearing this, probably patted them on their heads like the good little fools they were, laughing at them behind their backs all the while practically living with their Black mistresses and loving on them even harder.

Some people will say that it's normal for the races to stay to themselves, but how normal is it really? How much of it is really wanting to be with WW, and how much of it is simply the perceived lack of interest of BW? I have to wonder how many WM would really rather have married Sanaa but ended up with Cindy instead? Did some far thinking White person, in an attempt to keep the balance of power in their communities stop and say, "You know what, we really need to keep our sons away from these BW with their beautiful bodies and brilliant minds. God forbid that BW ever have the power and influence of the best WM behind them, they would be unstoppable. Let's just tell them all that WP are better so they won't be tempted to stray from the goodness and purity of the WW."

I can see this ish happening. I'd betcha dollars to donuts you can see it too.

At the end of the day, the racists will have a problem with BW taking the good WM for no other reason than the fact that BW are finally becoming the powerhouses of the world because we are no longer willing to be the world's favorite mule, but least respected mule anymore. Black women are finally coming into our power, and I for one think it's about damned time.

Like Katt Willaims said, "Haters will hate. That's their m.f.in' job, so why are you complainin'?"

Realize that they are angry with us for taking what in reality was never theirs. The best and the brightest will always come together.

Today's video selection is one of my favorites by Phyllis Hyman. I miss her so much. She had a voice that went through your soul and held it tight. Even now, almost fifteen years after her death, it still sounds as good as it did all those yeas ago. Listen to the sadness in her voice as she talks. I wish with everything I am that this sister was still among us. I truly believe that she would have benefited from our movement.

18 people feel me:

Anonymous said...

I'm in total agreement with your post. When people say that WM just aren't attracted to BW, I've always wondered how they thought Black people became so racially mixed before the 60's when it became "okay" for BM and WW to get together. Before that, it wasn't WW who were giving birth to mixed kids. We see a plethora of racial mixture not just among AA women, but also in BW from the Caribbean, Africa, South America and Europe! Most of us got this way through the union (albeit often illegitimate in the early days) of WW and BW. The separation of WW and BW that we see today is a cultural phenomenon - not an essential truth. The truth is that men like women and women like men - across ethnic and racial lines, and people will get together as they choose.

Gloria said...

I stan for Phyllis Hyman! Such a sad soul.

Anonymous said...

Nicoleeee..

You just had to break a sista down with the Phyllis Hyman,(low blow baby girl) I knew I was gonna weep when I saw her but dammit I had to hear her, o.k breathe....breathe.


Kelley

Anonymous said...

Sorry - meant to say "The separation of WM and BW that we see today is a cultural phenomenon - not an essential truth."

Gloria said...

I know I have to agree with funfeisty. I understand that Ms Hyman was supposed to be the next muse for good ole Clive Davis. I heard he was grooming her for the part but along came Ms Whitney. Clive believed that Whitney was more "commercial" and Phyllis was a little too urban. I heard that this too also led to her depression. And oh yes the "powers that be" are beginning to notice our wrath. Uh, let me just rephrase that last statement:

Folks (ww and dbr men of all races) already know our wrath. However they are beginning to realize that WE realize our wrath.

Put your game faces on ladies!!!

Taylor-Sara said...

Girl that was a wonderful post!! Kudos to you. And I could not agree more. Do people honestly not realize the misegination (sp?) laws were enacted to prevent WM FROM MARRYING BW!! BM in those days already KNEW they could not marry WW! Hell, they could not look at her without getting hung. No, those laws were to prevent WM from marrying sistas! Because even then many wm were falling head over heels for sistas but it could have meant death to admit it....

Harry Potter said...

Taylor-sara: "Do people honestly not realize the misegination (sp?) laws were enacted to prevent WM FROM MARRYING BW!! BM in those days already KNEW they could not marry WW! Hell, they could not look at her without getting hung. No, those laws were to prevent WM from marrying sistas! Because even then many wm were falling head over heels for sistas but it could have meant death to admit it...."

Great point. I know some people believe that there is no natural attraction between bw and wm. If this were true, those laws would not be put into place.

The current day divide between bw and wm is partially a result of a couple of things. One is the misguided tendency of some to carry history on our backs like a burden rather than using it as a tool for learning. The other cause is mass media stereotypes that deliberately try to make bw and wm both unappealing to the other. The fact that the number of bw/wm couples is growing DESPITE these stereotypes is testament to the natural attraction that has always existed.

EdD said...

A strong man desires a strong woman by his side, someone who not only complements his strengths, but who is going to eliminate his weaknesses.

That is certainly true for me. Thinking of women as the weaker sex has gotten many of my fellow men into some pretty unsatisfying relationships. Women have to be strong. That's just a necessary part of being an adult in this world.

Some people will say that it's normal for the races to stay to themselves, but how normal is it really? How much of it is really wanting to be with WW, and how much of it is simply the perceived lack of interest of BW? I have to wonder how many WM would really rather have married Sanaa but ended up with Cindy instead? Did some far thinking White person, in an attempt to keep the balance of power in their communities stop and say, "You know what, we really need to keep our sons away from these BW with their beautiful bodies and brilliant minds. God forbid that BW ever have the power and influence of the best WM behind them, they would be unstoppable. Let's just tell them all that WP are better so they won't be tempted to stray from the goodness and purity of the WW."

That is a very perceptive question. I know that I was discouraged from following my attraction to black girls as a child growing up in the South. When I was in my teens, my mother observed that I would most likely marry a black woman, which I did after my first marriage ( to a very pretty young white woman) ended in divorce after about 4 years.

My wife, an IT professional with a major corporation, is the black woman my mother, rest her soul, must have seen in my future. Mom lived long enough to encourage me to marry my current wife and to see us start our lives together in the South.

I believe that if more white men who love a black woman would simply realize that two strong people together can weather whatever social disapproval may be directed at them, the number of WM/BW marriages would increase exponentially.

Many white men like me are tired of waiting for white women to grow up and take on an adult role in an intimate relationship. From reading these blogs I'm getting the idea that many black women are tired of waiting for the same thing with black men.

Mutual love and respect between a man and a woman is what joins two people and forges them into a family. These days, it's apparent to me that many white men and many black women are simply tired to our bones of the childish behavior of the adults of the opposite sex within our own ethnicities. We want to marry and build families and don't want to try to do that with adults who are stuck in the teenage games of materialism and slavish devotion to a media-driven anti-culture.

I love women, period, but my standard for a woman is that she be a strong, responsible adult and not a selfish, fad chasing child. In that regard, many white women and black men deserve each other.

As to the standards of beauty promoted by popular media,....well, suffice it to say that my standards differ. To me there is no more beautiful lady than a full figured black woman.

One observation I would make to the single black women reading is that white men may just need to be shown that you are open to the possibility of making a life with them. A white man can be a strong, devoted husband and father and constant provider and is capable of loving his woman.

Maybe we all just need to drop our guards a little and show our love and respect for each other, regardless of the obvious risk of being rejected.

At the end of the day, the racists will have a problem with BW taking the good WM for no other reason than the fact that BW are finally becoming the powerhouses of the world because we are no longer willing to be the world's favorite mule, but least respected mule anymore. Black women are finally coming into our power, and I for one think it's about damned time.

Like Katt Willaims said, "Haters will hate. That's their m.f.in' job, so why are you complainin'?"

Realize that they are angry with us for taking what in reality was never theirs. The best and the brightest will always come together.


I agree with you completely, Beautifulblkwoman. It's great to find this blog and read your insightful comments. Katt has it right, too. We can expect that kind of nonsense from people who have nothing but nonsense to add to the dialog.

Thanks for reading. I'm open to other views.

Anonymous said...

Nicole, just checking in!
Love the post... keep your mind going sis. :o)))

Anonymous said...

It is also amazing to see these two strong peoples get together inspite of what the media-moguls put out. It is also very attractive of WM who step outside of those boundaries and choose to date/marry whom ever he deems attractive. Very attractive...why? Its says that "I am a man and *I* make *MY* own decisions, instead of someone making them for me,as *I* am NOT a child to have decisions made for."

Gloria said...

Taylor-Sara:

No, those laws were to prevent WM from marrying sistas!

Aww right now! Speak the truth LOL

Tori C said...

WW see us as a "Threat" thats it and that's all. Some BW hate because you can get a WM and WW are threatened by you because they can see why a WM would want you. I know this FIRST HAND!!! Most of the BW I know are married or dating sorry ass BM and they are curious of what its like for me to date a WM cause they can't do it. I have WW now in my office that will not even speak to me cause their husbands will hold open the door for me in the mornings or acknowledge me...its funny but true. I love it! They are intimidated by the power of a BW and don't know how to handle it now that they aren't considered the normal standard of beauty...Men are not checking for that blonde hair and blue eyes stuff no more...REAL BLACK IS BACK! Let those haters CHOKE on it! When I see WW and BW hating like that that just makes me wanna put on my make up alittle neater in the mornings, makes me wanna go buy that 18 inch 1B Yacky instead of that 14 inch 1B Yacky!! Makes me wanna buy that really expensive suite instead of the reasonably priced one I usually get...You feeling me on this one?..lol Just cause I know I gotta look good for all the men and the HATERS too....lol

Tori

BeautifulBlkWoman said...

Tori, you ain't right, but you ain't wrong either.

Sara: I have said that about the miscegenation laws for a long time now. That wasn't about BM getting WW, that was about keeping smart, determined BW away from WM with the money and power to change the course of the history of Black people.

Sandra: people live with their heads in the sand when it comes to Black/White relations in America, particularly pre-CRM.

Anonymous said...

Wow I had no idea that Anti Miscegenation laws were about keeping black women away from white men. Hmmm interesting and I'm quite familiar with the fact that no black man with a brain would have so much as coughed in a white woman's direction during Jim Crow and the slavery era.

I guess the new Anti Miscegenation law advocates are black men who don't want any competition for black women.

I'm of course referring to Damaged Beyond Repair black men of course.

Competition means they'll have to grow up and they can't rely on the legacy card or race card any more.


Well the old saying boys is "You snooze you lose!"

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Anonymous said...

I am glad that black woman are creating these supportive blogs. It is wonderful. Finally a place for us women who date or marry interracially. We have to do this for ourselves. No one else will do it for us. Things tend to be so contradictive. It seems like we are backed into a corner altogether. There are so many rules that we are told to follow. It seems like we are the only ones that are non supported in interracial dating and marrying. I am involved with a white man and we are planning on marrying. I am glad that I made the decision I did. He has supported me beyond belief. I hope black women open up their options so they can all have a chance at happiness and love that they deserve.

Tori C said...

Tiffany-this is a great blog! Glad you to meet you and lookin forward to getting to know you. Alot of positive and great women and blog lincs!
Great to hear your story...and again nice to meet you!

Tori

Anonymous said...

I've always said that it takes someone strong in themselves to "go after" whom they desire INSTEAD of letting society and/or the media DICTATE what they are "supposed" to have....

Good post!